Yes, it is. This fatalistic and defeating view of the world is what is making us into a victim again and again. You may think you’re optimistic and upbeat but you do not know how strong and reliable your attitude is till you are tested in life.
“It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” Aristotle
Do you keep your sunny disposition even when something is not going according to plan?
Do you still keep your positivity when someone has hurt you?
Do you keep on struggling with yourself to be positive and maintain your positivity because the environment around you makes you question yourself again and again?
If so, please have a print out of this insightful quote from Aristotle in your office and at home:
“What lies in our power to do, it lies in our power not to do.” Aristotle
You might totally believe that you are a positive person but being negative doesn’t always mean being rude and sarcastic. There are a number of ways that you are bringing your own mood down throughout the day. You might not realize that these things are affecting your attitude. But they do.
Closely observe these things and you will be able to strengthen your attitude for the better:
·Do you judge others?
You might think that this is a harmless habit but it is not. Whether you are having these judgmental thoughts silently or you voice them out loud is irrelevant.
What is important is you are thinking something destructive. You are harboring thoughts that are harmful.
It is not only a fist that is harmful. Judging others is a sign that you feel negative about yourself and others.
How can you say you are positive when you continuously keep on tearing people down?
·You do not give praises and you do not accept compliments
Thanking people should be a simple thing and yet we do not do it. We think because we have not received praises so why should we compliment others.
We think and believe we are doing the right thing by making simple statements like ‘Thank you’, ‘you have done a good job’, ‘I appreciate you’ into a complicated issue. It is not.
If you think you will lack something by saying ‘thank you’ then you have a lot of work to be done within yourself.
·Focusing on a problem rather than finding a solution
People who keep on being positive in spite of the problems surrounding them do manage to keep their positivity not because problems do not touch them but because they try to see beyond the problem.
Have you ever met a person who is mentally strong that whenever life throws a punch at him, he gets up even stronger?
Everybody needs to work hard to find a solution and work day and night to conquer a problem.
The difference between a positive person and a negative person is in the way they are performing the task. In the way they are finding a solution. In the way they are viewing the situation.
For a negative person, there is a load, a heavy load on his shoulder that is dragging all of his efforts down. He might be doing what he can to go forward but his negative attitude is dragging him down. Every time.
“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Victor E. Frankln
·You inner voice is negative
If your inner talk convinces you that you are not going to make it in life and you listen to it continuously, then nothing in the world is going to make you want to fight for life.
What you say to yourself has that much power over you. It is a voice that should not be ignored.
Your internal dialogue is just as important as what you consciously decide to feel or say out loud. If your inner talk is negative, it will exhibit itself somehow through you.
It might be you becoming immediately angry at someone. You might have an automatic negative thought towards someone you know. You might refuse to forgive that someone who has hurt you because there is a voice in your head that keeps on saying to you ‘Do not forgive him, do not forgive him’
“No one has the right to do wrong, not even if wrong has been done to them.” Victor E. Frankln
Let us not embrace negativity.
Let us run away from it like the plague.
If I embrace negativity as who I am that is my downfall. That is the enemy of my success. If I see the worst that can happen in every situation, that is my downfall.
Expecting the best out of every situation instead of the worst is the best thing we could do for ourselves.
While you are thinking about the worst case scenario, you are forgetting that it is equally likely that the best case scenario could happen.
So why should we make ourselves a victim? Why should we spend our energy trying to see the darkness when with the same amount of energy we can try to see the light?
Why should we make negativity an addiction we do not need?
Related Link: Inspirational ways to encourage a positive attitude
To your inspirations,
Originally published at banchiinspirations.com on April 10, 2019.